On the Aspie Side


This blog is about 11 inches by 7 inches and all black with orange trim. It goes for about $35 with domain name, template not included.

Kidding. Sorry, a bit of Pythonesque humor there.


Hi, I’m Heather. I’m 42, INTJ, and ASD level 1. I have degrees in philosophy and international affairs. I worked in Human Services for 4 years caring for the poorest population. Before that, I worked as a freelance journalist. Before that, volunteered in my local community a lot.


I do have some disabilities that are common to Autistics: Anxiety, PTSD, GURD, IBS, allergy to casein, insomnia, SDP, and I may have EDS.


To get a few things out of the way:

  1. Plenty of people are on the spectrum that don’t have any particular “look”.
  2. I suck at masking, but you don’t see it until you do. If I’m accidentally a jerk, all I ask is that someone tell me. I don’t mean it. I’m hyper logical, and I don’t always know to think through how everything I say will be taken. Often interpretations of my words surprise me.
  3. I’m not sorry for who I am. No, I would take a “cure” even if there was one.
  4. We’re born this way. Autism is genetic. There are at least 102 genes associated. 53 or so are not tied to intelligence. Although, I’m unlikely to have the genes they have currently identified. 
  5. I don’t have meltdowns. I shutdown. Basically, all my emotions clamp down, and I just suffer internally. I can’t cry. I wish I could.
  6. I have very minor stims. I’m trying to start letting them do their thing if they come out.
  7. If you’ve met one Autistic person, you’ve met one Autistic person. My behaviors or personality is nothing like anyone else on the spectrum… just like other humans.
  8. If I appear functional today, that does not mean you can deduce I will be tomorrow. 
  9. Please only use identity first language with me. I am not a “person with Autism” any more than I am a person with femaleness. Keep the person-first language for Diabetes, Cancer, HIV, and the umpteen other ribbon wearer diseases. I am not a disease. 
  10. My Autistic “superpowers” include an extremely strong sense of smell and taste, pattern recognition, problem-solving, spatial relation, and analogy making.